Sunday, January 28, 2007

Why?

I drove home from church wishing and wondering if there are any guys (lets qualify here any guy who is a worthy priesthood holder and is a good hearted person) who are interested in me for me. I don't mean for looks or they are nice just because they are or feel they have to be. I hope any and all of this is making sense. I would like to have a friend of the male gender (who is not attached to ANYONE) who would genuinely tell me I look nice or want to talk to me or even DO something with me, no strings attached, but yet finds my company delightful. Wouldn't that be nice? I think so. I am just so frustrated with this and it is probably just me and my way of thinking. I feel like it is in my face all the time because 2 of my roomies are dating and one is engaged. The engaged one and the younger of the two that are dating ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS talk about marriage and so it is a constant thing here at the bachelorette pad. Yet I am doing all I can to put myself out there. I go to all of the activities and things that I can, I have institute, I'm active in my ward, but still! There is only so much a girl can do!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I have done everything that the Lord wants me to up to this point in my life, and yet nothing is happening.

I'm most likely being very impatient, but sometimes I hurt so bad for someone (like now). . . good guy friends who want to do things with me and will talk to me and such. I felt very much ignored today at church by guys. . .what am I saying? I ALWAYS feel that way. Am I alone in this? CC has many guy friends, Kip has Fresno, Stewie. . .well she's married. . . Liza. . .that leaves us or am I alone in this because you have guy friends like that too? Am I too boring to talk to? Is that it or is it something else?

Does any of this make sense? Can you sense my frustration?

4 comments:

Melissa Johnson said...

I feel your frustration, and often think the same things. I wonder what am I doing wrong?! If someone would please just tell me what it is, I'd fix it! This morning was not a good one for me either. The primary kids helped cheer me up a bit, but at the end of the day, I'm still feeling pretty lonely.

steph k said...

Been there... done that... seriously. I didn't always have all the guy friends... and sometimes being the best friend that's a girl SUCKS.

I've definitely had those days. Perk up, be you, pray... things will happen.

ADDollhouse said...

Honestly, the Fresno thing is, like, AMAZING (read: Amazingly WEIRD). You totally need to look at it the other way: Like, dude, if there is a guy out there who likes KIP there is MAJOR hope for EVERYONE!!!!

But yes, I know how you feel. I have felt it. OFTEN. I am much more familiar with THAT than this new more positive boy stuff. Wacky!

stewbert said...

I need to read your blog more often.

*sigh* Just because I'm married *now* doesn't mean I forgot all the lonely nights I had during the nearly 7 years between my divorce and my wedding day. I remember what it's like. Some nights, you just cry yourself to sleep. And if you go out with someone or meet someone and they are great but there are no sparks you wonder what the heck is wrong with you. And you're simultaneously jealous of and happy for your friends who are in good relationships, and you're also glad you're not one of the ones in a BAD one. It's frustrating, and everyone telling me, "It'll happen on the Lord's time," just made me more frustrated, but danged if that isn't what happened. I'm still boggled that I'm married!